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A thank-you note lands better than you think

What they found

People who wrote gratitude letters consistently underestimated how surprised and happy the recipients would be - and overestimated how awkward the recipients would feel.

How they know

Several experiments had people write short thank-you notes to someone who mattered, predict the recipient's reaction, and then the researchers asked the recipients themselves.

What it means for you

That message you keep not sending - to a mentor, a friend, someone who helped once - will land warmer than you expect. The awkwardness is only in the sender's head.

The limits

Mostly US samples and short notes; the effect is about miscalibration, so if you already expect it to go well, there is less of a gap to correct.

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